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How do you recover after domestic violence?

I take part in a writing exercise through 5 Minute Friday. Each week we receive a word. We have 5 minutes to write on that topic and then post our work, unedited. The word for this week is: Recover.



How does one recover after escaping domestic violence? What if you are just fifteen years old? I am middle-aged now but from 13 to 15 years old; I was in an abusive relationship. My quest for a stable life led me to a relationship I could not handle. I found myself in trouble and alone. I thought I was so good at hiding my plight, but people knew. That hurt the most. People knew and left me, a child, to flail in deep waters. I used to pray without ceasing, "Please make him stop hitting me." But here is the thing. Had he stopped hitting me, I would never have left.


"When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives." James 4:3


One day, after a harsh public beating and humiliation, I changed my prayer. "God, please get me out of this?" The answer was near immediate. I escaped, or better yet, was set free. God sent people into my life who showed me love and acceptance like I had never known. That is where recovery began. It continues still. I will always be grateful to God for putting Jim and Vicki Smith in my path. Through them, God rescued me in more ways than one. I went on to help domestic violence victims later in life. That is how you recover. You help those who are in the thick of what you escaped. Recover.





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Deirdre Parker
Deirdre Parker
May 28, 2021

Brave and Strong are you!! Be strong and courageous, sister!! God is with you. Deirdre FMF#2

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Andrew Budek-Schmeisser
Andrew Budek-Schmeisser
May 28, 2021

Tina, I think you're awesome. The sonnet below is for you. I hope you like it.

***

And now behold the mighty lass

who stood to tell her story,

not for a prideful looking glass,

nor for a grab at glory,

but honestly, without conceit,

and with a hope to heal.

This is whom we long to meet,

the heroes who are real,

who use their pain to offer aid

and ask no recompense;

of such folk is heaven made,

and no monuments

can ever be in stone arranged

to match the lives that they have changed.

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tinapizor
May 28, 2021
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I love this. Thank you so much. I loved reading sonnets when I was a teen. Beautiful.

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Susan Shipe
Susan Shipe
May 28, 2021

What a powerful testimony. People need your story. xo

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tinapizor
May 28, 2021
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Thank you, Susan. It is diffucult to be vulnerable about certain periods in my life, but when I am given the opportunity to brag on God, I should take it.

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Barbara Hegreberg
Barbara Hegreberg
May 28, 2021

What a testimony! Do you share your story often? Stories of God's deliverance are so powerful!! I'm proud of you!

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tinapizor
May 28, 2021
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I do not share stories about this time in my life very often. Thank you for your kind words.

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